AITA for not letting my friend’s kid attend my “no children” wedding, even though they’re like family?

A bride-to-be on Reddit is planning her wedding and has implemented a firm rule disallowing kids from attending, aiming to cultivate a particular ambiance. This choice has caused distress for one of her dearest friends, whose 6-year-old child is considered as part of her family and even addresses her as “aunt.”

The friend thought her kid wouldn’t be affected and is now upset about the regulation. Even with the resistance, the user thinks it’s better to maintain the same standard for everyone, but now she’s wondering if she’s being too strict. See the complete story underneath.

‘ AITA for not letting my friend’s kid attend my “no children” wedding, even though they’re like family?’

Our wedding day is fast approaching, and my future spouse and I have made the firm decision to have an adults-only celebration. We’re aiming for a specific vibe, and let’s face it, weddings aren’t usually a barrel of laughs for the younger crowd. One of my dearest friends has a 6-year-old that I’m very fond of—they even think of me as family.

She thought her child would be different and was upset when I said that couldn’t happen. She thinks I’m being unfair, but I want to treat everyone the same. Am I wrong for enforcing my rule?

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Thunder-chicken300 −  No, your wedding & you have the complete say as to how you want it. Besides no child that age will last an hour, you’re doing the parents a favor. I was best man at my closest friend’s wedding. A strict Catholic wedding. During the vows some inconsiderate parent would not leave with their crying child & the Groom stopped the priest, turned & yelled “SHUT THAT DAMN KID UP” . It all could have been avoided.

MustangTheLionheart −  NTA – Your friend assumed incorrectly even though there was no reason for them to think “no children” didn’t mean her child. We all know what happens when people assume so hopefully your friend still has enough time to find a sitter if they still want to come to the wedding. Main thing is to be polite and understanding if your friend says they can’t come as a result.

Humble_Pen_7216 −  Edit to change to YTA. You claimed to want a child free event but then made exceptions. You clearly *don’t* value the friend very much. Original comment less judgement: Why would your friend assume their kid would be an exception? That’s kind of ridiculous. A child free wedding is *child free* – not child free except.

WhizGidget −  YTA. You made an exception for other kids. Were these older kids? Were they family or not close? Granted, it’s your wedding and your rules, but if you’re making exceptions and excluding a kid that is as close family, then I stand by my ruling.

Open_Error_5596 −  NTA. But just as it’s your decision to not want kids, it’s their decision to not want to attend without their kids.

justloriinky −  Why did you make an exception for other people’s kids? I think it’s interesting that you only mention that you made exceptions in your recap and not in your actual post.

PaperGardenias −  YTA BECAUSE THIS WHOLE POST IS FAKE.

Mandajolene123 −  YTA. You state you say no because you want to be consistent but in your explanation on why you might be TA you state you made an exception for other friends’ kids and ask if it’s wrong to enforce the rule inconsistently. You can’t even keep your story consistent.

hadesarrow3 −  From the explanation NOT INCLUDED in the original post: “I set a ‘no children rule for my wedding but *made an exception* for other friends’ kids.” How is this being consistent??? Why isn’t this in the main post, it’s almost certainly the reason she’s upset!?. YTA

Edit: Also, you mistakenly cast a vote for your own post, seemingly forgetting you were not logged into your ALTERNATIVE fabricated profile? Yes, the veracity of this narrative is highly questionable. I am uncertain whether you are attempting to accumulate karma or simply experiencing a disconnect from reality.

Outrageous_Fox_3544 −  Why is there always some entitle adult thinking their kid can bypass the rules. This happened to me as well, cause a riff and hard feelings. I have gone to several weddings, and my kid needed a sitter. My advice to all, grow up and let the wedding couple make their own bloody decisions and respect it.

Should she bend the rules for her friend’s kid, or is it right to stick to the “no kids” rule for all? What’s the best way to deal with this kind of situation? Give me your opinions!