AITAH For kicking my wife of over a decade out of the house for cheating on me again?

A husband shares his decision to end his marriage after discovering his wife of over a decade has cheated on him yet again, despite his previous forgiveness. This time, he decided enough was enough and took steps to protect himself. Was his response justified? Read the full story below…

‘ AITAH For kicking my wife of over a decade out of the house for cheating on me again?’

My wife (30f) and I (31m) were high school sweet hearts. We moved out of our parents houses together, got married, had kids, and grown a lot, at least I thought.
Over the course of our relationship, she has cheated on me at least a dozen times, sneaking off with old flames or coworkers to make-out and more.

Certain incidents came to light only after several years of our marriage. Despite everything, I had always been able to excuse her behavior, but this week’s events are beyond reconciliation. We celebrated Christmas three times in three days, once with my family, once with hers, and a third time two hours away with her grandparents and other relatives.

I did all the driving, as usual, but when we got back, she asked to go see her best friend. She said her friend was really bummed about spending Christmas alone. I told her to go ahead because, for some reason, I still had faith in her. She pointed out that I could have said no. However, after a long day of driving and entertaining our children, I was exhausted, so I let her go, but I warned her not to expect me to be awake when she returned.

“Perhaps I’ll startle you with good news, I should be back before the clock strikes twelve.” A sense of unease washed over me, so I contacted her closest confidante, who didn’t reply. Almost five hours later she arrives, lingering in the driveway, deep in conversation with a male colleague—the same one she’s been unfaithful with for the past few weeks, it seems.

I spent hours extracting every important aspect of her most recent affair, upset that I was in this situation once more. The next day, I publicly shamed her on Facebook, personally informed her brothers and friends, and evicted her from the house; my next step is to file for divorce permanently. Am I the bad guy for safeguarding my emotional health and distancing myself from this recurring violation of my trust?

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

FSB75 −  I read 2 words. “Cheating” and “again”.. NTA.

Jidzado −  Honestly, it’s your decision, but if my wife cheated on me a single time, it would be over between us.

Tiffany6152 −  “Maybe I will wake you up with a surprise.”. Yeah….herpes

bhyellow −  “A dozen times”. Yta for not having divorced her 11 times ago.

SirenBeautyShadow −  No, you’re not the a**hole. You’ve been dealing with betrayal after betrayal, and this last incident was the final straw. You’ve given her multiple chances, and she continued to disrespect you. It’s completely understandable that you’d protect your emotional well-being and decide to leave. You deserve honesty and respect, and it sounds like you’re finally choosing to prioritize yourself and your happiness.

Worldatmyfingertipss −  NTA. Serial cheaters belong on the streets. I’m happy you were strong enough to kick her out and I would recommend a divorce and full custody of the kids if you can swing that.

Tiffany6152 −  That has got to be fake. Or I am hoping at least. Have some self respect there guy. She didn’t even bother to get off the phone with him when she got home from cheating on you with him.

She brazenly sat on your property, carrying on a phone conversation as if it were acceptable. You’re not the one at fault, but if you remain in the relationship, she will likely continue to be unfaithful. You might as well come to terms with it since you permit her to do as she pleases, and she is aware of this.

Dense_Island_5120 −  NTA my man. You absolutely must move on from this inconsiderate person. She doesn’t love you or respect you. If you forgive her again you’ll be signing your life away. You must look deep into yourself on why you put up with this for so long, Look into yourself and find the root of why you forgave her.

Get yourself therapy and never turn back to her. There are partners out there who you can trust that won’t betray you like she did. She is a s**iopath narcissist to have cheated on you so much. Don’t ruin yourself and your ability to trust others over her

sfrancisch5842 −  Y T A to yourself for not respecting yourself enough to kick her lying cheating ass out after the first time.. Or second.. Or third.. Or fourth.. Or fifth.. I’m sure you get the point.

ronniereb1963 −  Why do you even have to ask, absolutely NTA, cheated on once would be enough to justify your actions let alone multiple times and on Christmas?!?!

Was he justified in establishing boundaries and making his emotional health a priority? Or did he go too far by making her actions public? Let us know what you think!