AITAH for cashing out, enjoying life, and not giving anything to daughter?

A grieving 57-year-old woman chose to cash out her late husband’s assets and enjoy life after her daughter, who went nearly no-contact after marriage, suddenly demanded she sign everything over to her and her husband. Now, the daughter is trying to reconnect after failing to claim the assets through legal action. Read the full story below…

‘ AITAH for cashing out, enjoying life, and not giving anything to daughter? ?’

Last year, I lost my husband, with whom I had spent 25 years. We have a daughter, 24, who has been married for two years. Following her marriage, my son passed away, and it has been a nightmare since then. Prior to her marriage, we enjoyed a wonderful, uneventful relationship with our daughter. She was a kind and affectionate person, and she was, on the whole, a wonderful daughter.

She married the person she wanted to be with. Ever since then, things have gone badly. She no longer visits, answers messages, or returns calls, and has essentially ceased contact. We weren’t wealthy, although my husband possessed considerable assets, they hadn’t been converted to cash. His death was unforeseen, so he didn’t prepare a will.

Following his demise, my beloved daughter was absent from both his funeral and any subsequent memorial events. She neglected to contact me to inquire about my well-being. A mere half-year after my husband’s death, she and her brother-in-law forcefully entered our home, accompanied by an attorney who instructed me to endorse certain papers, including an empty page.

I am aware of the law and not uninformed; I inquired with her about the contents of the documents. I’m unsure of my actions, but she insisted that I sign unidentified documents and an empty page while refusing to answer any questions. When I questioned the attorney about the situation, he informed me that it was to transfer all of the assets to her and my brother-in-law’s names. I refused.

The situation escalated into violence when she assaulted me, forcing me to cry out for assistance. I didn’t involve the police, but I demanded she leave before I took action myself. She insisted on me signing something and even tried to get my thumbprint. By then, my neighbors had arrived and saw the tail end of the coercion. Thankfully, my neighbor intervened and physically removed them from my property.

Following that, I felt deeply disturbed and wounded. I was unsure of my actions and, frankly, feared for my safety. Although her messages weren’t explicitly threatening, possibly due to legal advice, she persisted in sending them. She continued with saccharine messages, expressing gratitude for my designating her as the beneficiary and transferring all my possessions to her. It filled me with revulsion.

After a week of being tormented, I reached my breaking point and resolved to leave. I consulted my attorney, who informed me that, in the absence of a will, I was the exclusive inheritor of all possessions and had complete autonomy over them. To cut to the chase, I liquidated everything, earned a substantial eight-figure sum, and acquired a new residence in a location I had always desired, far removed from everyone I knew.

I intend to spend the remainder of my days traveling and engaging in activities I’ve longed to do but haven’t had the opportunity for. I recently learned that my daughter attempted to sue me shortly after I sold everything and left, but the case was unsuccessful because everything was legally in my name.

She now wants to meet me and is pressuring her lackeys to contact me and make me meet her. I said no. I don’t understand why she did that, because it was all going to be hers anyway. They don’t know where i am presently, and I’d prefer to keep it that way. I’m NC with her and sil, and don’t have social media except reddit.. AITA?

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

[Reddit User] −  report the ‘lawyer’ to the bar

Dranask −  NTA, suggest you leave all your money to a refuge for abused women, as for your daughter, she can whistle.

NoCan9967 −  NTA spend it all and if you cant,donate whatever is left in your son & husbands name to charity they would support.

Apprehensive_Skin150 −  PLEASE get your lawyer to prepare a will for you and all the relevant powers of attorney. Make it very clear in the will your daughter is not inheriting anything and why, and name who your beneficiary(s) are.

messy_thoughts47 −  NTA. NAL, but I recommend taking steps immediately to prevent your daughter from trying to declare you incompetent. Speak to your attorney and financial advisor about placing the money in a trust with you as the beneficiary during your life time, then leave the money to a charity of your choice. Lock your credit down. Change any passwords.. Good luck OP!

SnooWords4839 −  NTA – Have your lawyer send a cease-and-desist letter. Have the letter state, after they physically attacked you, and further attempt for them to contact you, you will pursue charges. Also, make a will keeping any money away from them!. Sorry for your losses.

Token_or_TolkienuPOS −  Reddit should really have a sub for the “fiction-est” wild stories. The competition would be tough, i tell you that much.
YTA for lying about some imaginary 8 figures.

KINGCOCO −  YTA for posting this b**lshit story. Without a will, OP would not be entitled to all of her husbands assets. This is so clearly rage bait. The characters are also way over the top ridiculous. So is “sign this paper and transfer everything to me” and the lawyer coming with. That’s not how any of this works. None of this is remotely plausible.

Jazzlike-Bird-3192 −  NTA. I don’t expect my parent’s money to be kept for me. It’s their money. They can do with it what they want. I will fend for myself. You do you!

Mazkar −  This one is for sure fake af lol.

Following her daughter’s behavior, was severing their relationship and focusing on her well-being the correct decision, or should she offer her daughter another opportunity? Express your thoughts in the comments!