AITA for kicking my fiancée out of the house after finding out she lied about being infertile?

A Reddit user expressed astonishment and anger upon learning that their fiancée had been dishonest about her infertility and had secretly stopped using contraception in order to get pregnant. Feeling deceived and distressed, the user asked her to move out, which led to criticism from her family. Read the complete account and post your opinions in the comments.

‘ AITA for kicking my fiancée out of the house after finding out she lied about being infertile?’

My future wife (30F) and I (33M) have been a couple for four years and betrothed for one. She informed me early on in our relationship that she was unable to conceive because of a health issue she experienced as a teenager. This didn’t bother me, as I never really desired to have biological children and thought we could look into adoption if we ever felt differently.

I returned last week to discover a positive pregnancy test on the bathroom counter. Initially, I assumed she was assisting a friend, but when I questioned her, she confessed, revealing that she was never infertile, contrary to what I believed.

She apparently wasn’t truthful because she believed I would abandon her if I found out she was capable of having children, as she was aware of my aversion to them. The shocking part is that she admits to discontinuing her birth control “a couple of months ago” in secret, hoping that an accidental pregnancy would sway my stance on becoming a parent.

I was enraged and let her know that I considered her actions a profound act of disloyalty. I feel as though the foundation of my faith in her has been destroyed. She defended her actions by saying it stemmed from her love for me and a desire to strengthen our bond through parenthood. I stated that I required solitude and requested that she vacate the premises.

She’s currently living with her sister and constantly messaging me, insisting that I’m exaggerating and acting heartlessly by “evicting my child’s mother.” Her relatives are also getting involved, labeling me an irresponsible father for “deserting her” while she’s pregnant.

I’m finding it hard to cope because I never desired children, but now I’m expecting one and feel confined. Simultaneously, I’m unable to move past the reality that she deceived me for an extended period and maneuvered me into this predicament. Would I be wrong to ask her to move out, or am I within my rights to require time to come to terms with this act of treachery?

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

shammy_dammy −  NTA. Cancel the engagement, show her the door out and get a lawyer.

Significant-Bobcat48 −  NTA. wtf? This is SO wrong on so many levels. She’s baby trapping you and g**lighting you. You never wanted kids and made that clear. Not only did she lie abt being infertile, she lied abt still being on birth control. Leave her

qtcyclone −  Last year you and fiancée were 20 and 22. And she was older. How did you age so quickly?

Careless-Image-885 −  NTA. Change the locks. Get a lawyer. Keep all texts from her and her family, especially if she says anything about lying to you. Have as much documentation as possible for your lawyer. Cancel the engagement. She baby-trapped you.

WaryScientist −  NTA – I was ready to say otherwise based on the title (example: I was infertile and have kids… infertility can naturally go down as a person ages), but she lied every day of your relationship and then baby trapped you.

She essentially deceived you – I’m not sure what the correct term is – by taking away your birth control and not allowing you to choose whether to risk getting pregnant.

I would be direct and inform her that I do not intend to participate in the child’s upbringing. It’s her choice to either keep the baby and raise it independently, or not, because I refuse to be tied to her permanently.

EverLearningSoul −  This is a huge betrayal. And she just showed you who she really is.. A l**r.. A manipulator. And so selfish that she forced you into a situation she knew you didn’t want. Insecurity is no excuse. And you can never trust her again. Sorry man.

fly1away −  I think the legal term is reproductive coercion. Make sure you get or save written admission of what she did and take her to court.

Ornery-Platypus-1 −  NTA, anyone in their right mind would be pissed. She’s a m**ipulative l**r, she did you dirty, and she knows it…plus, she has an 18+ year long payday that will pop out of her in the near future.

No-Watercress-5054 −  **you have a post from 1 year ago calling yourself a 20-year-old man** Do you idiots not realize we can read all your old posts?