AITAH for refusing to give my sister the wedding dress I paid for?

A 29-year-old woman is conflicted about whether she’s wrong for not letting her sister use her $5,000 wedding gown. Her sister wanted to borrow it to cut costs, but the woman found out she intended to make major changes to the dress.

Following her refusal to give her sister the dress, after a disagreement, she’s now being labeled as trivial and blamed for potentially spoiling her sister’s wedding by her family.

‘ AITAH for refusing to give my sister the wedding dress I paid for? ‘

I (29F) tied the knot last year and splurged $5,000 on the wedding gown I had always envisioned. It was made specifically for me, and I funded it completely with money I had set aside. My younger sister (26F) is planning her wedding and inquired about *borrowing* my dress to “cut costs.”

I was reluctant due to my emotional connection to the item, but she assured me she would handle it with care. However, I recently learned from a shared acquaintance that my sister intends to **modify the dress** to suit her preferences, such as redesigning the collar and incorporating arm coverings.

I called her out, and she confessed, claiming I was acting selfishly over “just a dress” when she couldn’t buy a replacement. I clearly stated she was no longer allowed to borrow it. Now my relatives are inundating my phone, labeling me as trivial and declaring that I’m “destroying her special occasion over a bit of material.”

I believe I’m justified in wanting to preserve my dress’s original form, yet others are inducing remorse in me. Would I be in the wrong for declining to relinquish something of such great personal value?

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Significant-Bobcat48 −  NTA at all. She was being dishonest about her intentions and she was going to completely ruin your dress to make it her own. She sounds very entitled and I’d encourage her to check herself before she wrecks herself lol

Agnesperdita −  These repeat fake AI-generated wedding dress loan posts are as boring as the repeat fake plane seat swap demand posts.

kd3906 −  This is fake. Three days ago, OP was a 24 year old male with a 28 year old sister. Two days ago, OP was a 30 y.o. male, and now an hour ago has popped up as a 29 y.o. female. Three posts, each about a sister whose age also fluctuates.

The term “selfish” invariably crops up when describing those who crave attention. The original poster is indeed an awful human being and should be downvoted into oblivion.

RebRN34 −  YTA for making this story up and wasting people’s time

justpoppingby84 −  This is karma farming. Last post, you were single and living alone. This is an old story.

doihavetousethis −  Read this same story on here not long ago. Plus a couple days ago you were 30F, now you’re 29F. A few days before that you were also 24M.. Make your mind up.

No_Kangaroo_5883 −  Do you realize people look at your post history? Seems you are quite the age and gender traveler in the last few days. So are all three of your posts BS?. YTA because of ☝️

Inevitable_Pie9541 −  Every day. Every single damn day with the “sister or sister in law wants to borrow or wreck my very precious expensive custom wedding dress and AITA cuz family is blowing up my phone” yatta yatta. YTA for yet another iteration of this stupid fake story.

Automatic_Actuator58 −  Downvote. She is a post stealth

Is the woman within her rights to deny her sister the use of her bridal gown, or is she being overly protective of an item that could alleviate her sister’s financial burden? What would your course of action be in this scenario? Let’s discuss your perspectives in the comments!