Update: I [30 F] am sitting in the back of my RV as my husband [32 M] rants about how lovely the trip would be if I hadn’t joined him.

During a recreational vehicle journey, the initial poster found out about her husband’s intentions to be unfaithful. She challenged him at his mom’s place, then separated from him, and is currently in the process of getting a divorce. These resolute actions showcase her inner fortitude and commitment to valuing her self-respect and health.

‘ Update: I [30 F] am sitting in the back of my RV as my husband [32 M] rants about how lovely the trip would be if I hadn’t joined him.’

I said I’d give an update, but things became incredibly chaotic, and this is the first opportunity I’ve had. This entire ordeal is stirring up a lot of emotions, so please excuse any lack of clarity in this message.

While traveling in the RV during my initial post, my husband was silently upset with me, criticizing me from the driver’s position. Your advice was excellent on how to handle the situation, and I considered the opinions of those who thought he might be unfaithful.

While Tim was driving, he plugged in his iPad to charge in the RV’s rear. I’m not happy about it, but I managed to slip his iPad into the bedroom while his attention was on the road. He was still signed into his email, so I gave his inbox a quick once-over but didn’t see anything that raised my suspicions.

I then decided to look at what he had sent, and I discovered he was flirting with an old flame from his university days. Reading those messages churned my stomach, though thankfully it hadn’t gone beyond just words.

The message he texted his former girlfriend, stripped of its internet slang, conveyed a sentiment of intense longing: “I eagerly anticipate being intimate with you. It has been far too long since I have experienced that pleasure. I am aroused!” I found it repulsive, but attempted to maintain my composure. We were driving to another state with plans to visit his mother.

Knowing that his messages were in the sent folder implied their deletion. Tim intended to avoid detection and was attempting to conceal his actions. He desired my RV to tour his former partner across the state and enjoy himself without using credit cards.

I documented the emails by taking pictures and emailing them to myself to safeguard the proof. Following this, I returned to the RV’s front and pretended that nothing was amiss. I feigned an apology for my behavior (though it was insincere) and proposed that we seek assistance from his mother to resolve our issues.

Tim expressed his regret and acknowledged my acceptance of his apology. He voiced his anticipation for future RV trips and his satisfaction that I had finally understood his perspective. I offered a smile and a nod, while inwardly, I was filled with animosity towards him.

Upon arriving at his mother’s residence, I fabricated a reason for needing to change, citing the dishevelment of my attire. Tim proceeded indoors without me, at which point I began placing all of his garments and possessions into a refuse sack. Subsequently, I entered the house to find Tim seated with his mom in the cooking area.

He questioned what I intended to do with the luggage, and I explained I was returning his belongings so I could go. At that point, Tim became enraged, demanding to know what the hell I thought I was doing, while his mother appeared puzzled. She inquired about the situation, and I responded that I was also unsure.

I’m expecting Tim to justify his intentions to be unfaithful with his former girlfriend. Subsequently, Tim’s mother began weeping and berating Tim as he attempted to appease her. I realize that Reddit is generally critical of religion, but Tim’s mother is a devout follower.

From the moment Tim presented me to her, she held affection for me, and expressing her displeasure with her unfaithful son would be a gross understatement. Tim never attempted to seek my forgiveness, instead pursuing his mother and directing his apologies toward her.

This intensified her tears, as she realized his apology was directed at her, not an attempt to reconcile with me. She embraced me, urging me to leave and entrusting her with the situation involving her son.

I expressed my gratitude, accepted the RV keys from Tim after a brief tussle, and departed. The drive back was tearful, but on the bright side, I was finally free of my awful ex-husband. The following day, Tim contacted me, pleading for my return, claiming it was all a misunderstanding and expressing remorse.

I questioned his lack of apology at his mother’s home, wondering why he hadn’t expressed remorse as I returned his belongings. I asserted that he was unconcerned with the infidelity itself, focusing solely on the damage it inflicted on his reputation within his family. He attempted to justify his actions, but I ended the conversation abruptly.

I blocked him on all social media and haven’t heard anything since. I have gotten a lawyer and have already started the divorce process.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

[Reddit User] −  Ouch. Silver lining in this, is now you have the RV to yourself and can find a better partner in the future. I’m also glad his Mother took your side, and was upset with him for cheating. You should definitely keep her in your life after the divorce.

RememberKoomValley −  Wow, complex feelings on this one. There’s the “Ouch, that’s awful!” but also an overwhelming “BUT THANK GOD she’s getting the f**k away from that a**hole!” I was concerned that you might stay with him for another year or two until the marriage gave its last gasp.

This is definitely unpleasant, though more orderly. Plus, you never have to consider the possibility of another woman being inside your recreational vehicle.

CthulhuLives69 −  When I read your first story I thought “He wants it so he won’t leave a credit card trail” I guess I was right. What a sorry f**k he is.
I’m sorry it turned out this way but I’m glad you kicked him out and talked to a lawyer. F**k him.

akcom −  She asked me what was going on and I told her, “I’m not sure myself. I’m waiting for Tim to explain why he was planning to cheat on me with his ex.” God you’re f**king cool. Do you realize how f**king sweet that sounds? Congratulations on losing the 150lb+ of a**hole weighing you down and good luck in the future 🙂

[Reddit User] −  The f**king NERVE of your ex; to not only plan to cheat on you, but to try to do it in YOUR RV. That you paid for! Jesus f**k what an a**hole.
On the plus side- you seem like an awesome and strong person. I hope you find someone equally awesome to make happy memories in the RV with.

worksafeaccount15 −  You are one tough broad. You handled that amazingly!

daguro −  Ufff, da!. Sorry that happened to you. I hope you can get through the divorce without it wrecking you. If I can offer any advice in that regard, just try to focus on the life you want to lead in the future and how the step you take today lead you to that.. Good luck.

ladyxdi −  He said it was all a mistake, that he was sorry. He was sorry he got caught. This guy is a massive shitdick.

[Reddit User] −  You should write about this is your next book – imagine the look on his face when it’s a best seller and he has to see it EVERYWHERE

[Reddit User] −  Usually I wouldn’t advocate for this…but I hope you and the lawyer take your ex-husband to the f**king cleaners. Holy s**t not even a little remorse for hurting you…he only cared about that he looked bad in front of his family.

Sever all ties with him and don’t allow any reconciliation attempts. Finalize the divorce, cut off all communication, and proceed forward to discover a companion who genuinely values you.