AITAH? Sister announced our pregnancy on social media before we did. I sided with my wife ?

A couple, anticipating the arrival of their twin babies, were frustrated when the man’s sister revealed her own pregnancy on Facebook before they could share their news with the woman’s relatives. They had asked for discretion because of the delicate nature of the pregnancy, but the sister’s post resulted in unwelcome interest from extended family members and casual contacts.

Upon being challenged, the sister justified her behavior, removed the content, and depicted herself as wronged, which intensified the couple’s annoyance. Read the original story below…

‘ AITAH? Sister announced our pregnancy on social media before we did. I sided with my wife ?’

I am 38, and my sister is 40. It wasn’t a matter of intentionally concealing anything. My family resides in the same city as us, whereas her family does not. Furthermore, her family doesn’t speak English, which prevented us from informing both families simultaneously. My sister shared the announcement post the following day.

The main issue is that someone revealed the news before we could share it with our family and friends ourselves. Additionally, my wife has personal reasons for not having informed some of her relatives, which are private. We discovered we were expecting in late August, and in September, we learned it was twins.

TheOtherDside We held off on informing my family until the 13-week mark, with the request that they refrain from sharing anything until my wife’s family, who are all in Brazil, had been informed. However, my sister disregarded this request and made a large, emotional post on her Facebook page, expressing her excitement about becoming an aunt. This understandably upset my wife and also made me angry.

I phoned her, and we spoke. I told her I felt quite disappointed that she behaved so selfishly, especially since we had asked her to hold off on posting anything. She replied that none of her relatives or acquaintances were on her Facebook, so she didn’t think she had spoiled the surprise for anyone.

After a disagreement, she became angry. My sister is quite sensitive, and although we’ve always been close, I couldn’t overlook the situation. Now, my sister is attempting to manipulate me with guilt, aiming to make me feel awful for being the bad guy towards her. She has since removed the post, but the negative impact remains.

It’s been frustrating to receive congratulations from extended relatives and even unknown people. It’s particularly annoying that unknown individuals are aware of our pregnancy before my wife’s own family. Additionally, some of these strangers have contacted me questioning why I supposedly made my sister remove her post.

Clearly shes playing the victim with them… Ugh its just so unfortunate…

See what others had to share with OP:

Far_Information_9613 −  NTA. Your sister violated a boundary and is upset you called her on it. Now you know to tell her things last.

Shichimi88 −  Nta. Keep her on info diet. No knowledge of the gender for her.

CaptainBeefy79 −  NTA, that wasn’t her announcement to make. Your sister is a s**fish b**t who obviously can’t be trusted with anything in the future.

efgrigby −  NTA.Your sister sounds m**ipulative. There are several phrases in your account that are HUGE red flags. Are you mistaking being kept on a short rope for being close? Does your “strong” relationship with your sister benefit you both equally?

Emergency_Exit_4714 −  Please consider how often your sister does these sorts of things, then resorts to guilt and manipulation. At face value, it sounds like your sister has narcissistic traits, particularly by playing the victim to family.

NTA. My strongest recommendation is to discuss this with your partner and create a joint strategy. It might be necessary to have low or no contact if this issue isn’t resolved. If it isn’t, your sister will probably disregard your limits again after your children are born.

wendue −  NTA. It was not her news to tell. The audacity!

Ok_Bit1981 −  NTA.Your sister centered this around her. Did she even mention you and your wife? Or was it all about her being an aunt? Doesn’t matter, she still sucks. Her entitlement and lack of respect for the boundaries you set are beyond spoiled. And to top it off, she’s refusing to comprehend the gravity of her actions and apologize. It might be time to distance yourself until she comes to her senses.

Careless_Welder_4048 −  NTA. If you don’t take a stand now, she will continue to walk over you and your wife. I’m glad you stood up to her. Start telling people she’s s**fish.

MyHairs0nFire2023 −  NTA.  Your wife’s current medical status is NO ONE else’s business unless she chooses to disclose it to them & even then that doesn’t give them the right to go publicize in social media.

The possibility of your wife’s medical situation resulting in two healthy children who will be related to your sister doesn’t give her permission to reveal your wife’s private health information.

Your sister went too far by posting anything without your wife’s consent. That alone makes her an AH. But she’s amplifying her AH status by exposing her narcissism, attempting to portray herself as the victim and you as the wrongdoer.

That is classic narcissistic conduct. Rather than investing effort in narcissistic pursuits, like portraying herself as the injured party and you as the wrongdoer, AH ought to focus on delivering a heartfelt and thorough apology to both you and, most importantly, your wife, for broadcasting your wife’s health status online without authorization. She had no right to do so, and no justification can alter that reality.

seulgislotion −  How hard is it to respect someone’s wishes and keep your gob shut 😭 what an annoying sister

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