AITA – My sister and her husband complained about overhearing us in our own home?

A Reddit user voiced their discontent about residing with their sister and her spouse, who initially intended to stay briefly but have now been there for more than a year. Even though she was very close with her sister, the user and her husband experienced a restricted domestic atmosphere because of the extended living arrangement.

The pair attempted to show consideration by shifting their private moments to the late hours or the break of dawn, but ultimately fell back into their usual habits. The sister and her spouse voiced worries regarding the disturbance, viewing it as a lack of respect.

The user mentioned that her brother-in-law’s absence of drive has played a role in their extended residency, implying that increased effort on his part could have led to their departure already. Read the original story below…

‘ AITA – My sister and her husband complained about overhearing us in our own home?’

My sibling, along with her family, relocated to live with my spouse (31M) and myself (30F) temporarily to shorten the distance while they were searching for a new residence. We initially agreed on a 3-month stay, with a maximum of 6 months. However, it has now been 12 months. Although my sister is my closest friend, my spouse and I are eager to reclaim our home for our immediate family.

My spouse and I share a close connection, and we’ve made an effort to maintain a peaceful and considerate environment while they’re staying with us. We’ve even shifted our activities to periods when everyone is either sleeping or awake before dawn.

We’ve chosen to get back to living the way we always have, and they’ve expressed worries about the volume. They think it’s rude and wondered if we could be quieter. We’re just living our lives together in our house.

My brother-in-law took a month off from his job just because he didn’t feel like working. His apathy and poor work habits are a big reason they’re still living with us. Since they moved in, he’s already been fired from two jobs and is now on his third. Am I the asshole for refusing to keep accommodating them? If they’re unwilling to listen, maybe he should focus on working harder to better their circumstances.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

[Reddit User] − NTA – they’ve overstayed their welcome. They need to go and give you your space back. Honestly, I’d start emphasizing my own routines more at this point.

Rude_Egg_6204 − 1. You want them gone 2. Living your life bothers them. Personally, I’d make a point of it. Maybe start experimenting with new activities they wouldn’t appreciate… just a thought.

algunarubia − NTA. You should tell your sister directly: “When you originally moved in, you said it would be for three months. Even that was an adjustment, but we did it for harmony’s sake. It’s been a year, and we want our space back. If you don’t like it, find a new place.”

TickityTickityBoom − NTA – Easy solution: “I understand your concerns, but this arrangement was for 3-6 months. Please make plans to find your own place and be moved out by 1st December 2024.”

BlindUmpBob − Your sister is definitely taking advantage of your hospitality. They’ve even had the audacity to tell you how to act in your own home. Give them a 30-day notice, and if they don’t comply, start eviction proceedings.

Good luck to them finding another landlord who will let them rent from them given the current housing situation. NECTBA (definitely not the AH… NTA, in other words).

jenjemin_buttons − NTA. Try communicating directly with them about your desire for them to move on, rather than relying on indirect hints. You’ve done a kind thing, and it shouldn’t be taken this far—you deserve your space back.

archetyping101 − NTA. For them to complain about normal activities in your home when they’ve overstayed is quite bold. It’s time to speak directly with your sister and let her know it’s time for them to go.

Winter_Series_5598 − Give them a 30-day notice. Take back your home.

Tumbleweed_Jim − NTA. “Sorry you overheard us in the home you’ve been reluctant to leave. Maybe it’s time you get a place of your own where this isn’t an issue!”

violue − While you’re not in the wrong, I’d avoid making others unconsenting participants in any personal situations.

Is the user and her spouse correct in valuing their relationship and privacy within their residence, or should they keep providing for their sister’s family? What would your course of action be if disagreements arose between personal limits and household living situations? Please, share your opinions in the comments!