AITAH for not making my wife choose between me and her affair partner ?

A Reddit user recounted his choice to separate from his wife right after finding out about her infidelity, opting against trying to salvage the relationship. He initiated divorce proceedings and relocated, resolute in his decision to move forward, even though acquaintances advised him to “try to save his marriage”. Read on to see whether his course of action was justified or if he ought to have contemplated mending their relationship.

‘ AITAH for not making my wife choose between me and her affair partner ?’

The moment I discovered the truth, I left and started divorce proceedings. Therapy is not an option. I’m not considering an open marriage. I want nothing more to do with her. She claimed she would pick me if I asked, which is disgusting. I don’t desire her.

Some acquaintances believe I ought to have tried harder to save my marriage. I propose a sexual encounter with me to them or their spouses, so they can understand my perspective. No one has accepted my generous and virtuous proposition. I am contributing my portion of the rent for the apartment.

With only four months remaining, I plan to continue working and utilizing my vacation time at all-inclusive resorts. This option is more economical than renting my own place. Would I be wrong for not attempting to salvage our marriage?

These are the responses from Reddit users:

RaccoonPrestigious81 −  She tried saying that if I asked she would choose me. You did ask her, at your wedding. Wild of her to say that.. NTA

RealityWhole2332 −  NTA. If she was going to choose you, she shouldn’t have had an affair in the first place. I like your response to the friends too.

CatelynsCorpse −  It’s so weird when cheaters say s**t like “Why won’t you fight for our marriage?” Like, hey, you could have easily “fought for our marriage” by not f**king someone else but okay, sure make me the bad guy here.. NTA

The_Crown_And_Anchor −  NTAH. There’s nothing to save. The marriage ended the second she cheated on you because you are not interested in being her second choice. And even if she chose you, you would be her second choice. Because if you were her first choice, SHE WOULDN’T HAVE CHEATED IN THE FIRST PLACE

Crazy_Atmosphere53 −  Nta. You did the right thing.

Stunning-Market3426 −  Dude you are so awesome! I love your response about the Christian duty to sleep with their spouse….hahahaha

[Reddit User] −  I’m glad to see someone with some damn self respect. The pick me game is pathetic.

vandr611 −  NTA. She already made her choice.

BuckWhoSki −  “She tried saying that if I asked she would choose me.” That happened at the wedding, she lied. Good riddance. Trust in yourself and move on. You’re a strong individual to take the steps you are doing, you are worth so much more than bs like this in your life. Easiest NTA ever, I would have done the same thing. If that makes me an a**hole, then so be it. It’s unforgivable to me.

amanofcultureisee −  “There are four months left. In the meantime I’m going to work and spending my time off at all inclusive resorts. It’s cheaper than getting an apartment for myself.” This is how you “separate” prior to a divorce!!!!! i think this is a brilliant idea

Was the user justified in ending his marriage, or should he have attempted to repair the relationship? In a comparable scenario involving a breach of trust in your own relationship, what course of action would you take? Let us know what you think in the comments.