AITA for refusing my future sister in law’s request to dye my hair for my brother’s wedding?

A Redditor shares their story of being asked by their future sister-in-law to dye their naturally red hair for her wedding, as the bride wants to be the only one with that shade. Despite pushback from family, the Redditor stands firm, valuing their hair as a personal choice. Read the original story below:

‘ AITA for refusing my future sister in law’s request to dye my hair for my brother’s wedding?’

My soon-to-be sister-in-law, Liz, is acting like a demanding bride, arguing with everyone about insignificant details. I naturally have red hair, which I adore. Liz, who is blonde, has a passion for red hair and has been dyeing her hair a shade very similar to mine since she met me.

I find her actions peculiar, but I don’t own this specific red hair color, and she can do as she pleases with her hair. However, this week, she requested that I dye my hair a different color to make hers unique at her wedding, even offering to pay for it. I simply refused, as it’s my hair, and I don’t want to alter it.

I confided in my brother, and he encouraged me to make my own decision about my hair. He offered to intervene with Liz to get her to stop pressuring me. Unfortunately, that didn’t resolve the issue. Liz went to my parents, and they sided with her, insisting that because it’s her wedding, we should be more flexible. They also emphasized the importance of maintaining a good relationship with her for the sake of our future.

I consider myself flexible; she’s free to style her hair however she chooses! Why should she care about my hair in the first place? My parents are suggesting that I take the high road. I’m not sure why I, at 18, should be more mature than Liz, who is 27. They’ve said I’m overreacting about something small and that I should just agree with her since it’s her wedding. Am I the unreasonable one for standing my ground?

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

Madame_Corleone420 −  Absolutely NTA!!! Dying your hair + color correction to get back to your natural color + the amount of time it takes for your natural colored hair to grow out is a pain in the b**t.

Fainora −  NTA if she wants to have original hair for her wedding maybe she should use her natural hair and not yours. it is absurd, rude and wrong to ask people in your wedding party to change their physical appearance for your wedding. There is no reason you should damage your hair for one day.

mrslII −  NTA. She can ask. You said no. Also, WTAF? She’s something special.. Edit. The “Be the better person” is b**lshit. Every single time. People who say that are trying to manipulate who they say it to.

[Reddit User] −  NTA – If this woman wanted unique hair, she should have picked a different color than the one naturally occurring in her future SIL.

_Living_deadgirl_ −  NTA if she wants unique hair for her wedding then she can dye hers a different colour.

Erythronne −  NTA. Say ok and buy a blue or purple wig to wear

awyllt −  NTA. Tell her to dye her hair blue if she wants to be unique.

originalgenghismom −  NTA – being “the bigger person” means “be a doormat so the entitled, jealous, selfish (fill in the blank) can have their way and reduce stress for everyone around them”. Please do not change your hair and risk damaging it. As a compromise maybe you can offer to wear your hair in a subdued or pulled back style.

[Reddit User] −  NTA. You can try telling her that since everyone knows your real hair color, that if you change it, THAT will be the talk of the wedding. “Ooh didn’t she used to have red hair?” “I liked the red so much better.” “Why did she dye it for the wedding?” ”

dwassell73 −  NTA tell your parents & Liz that you are not dying your hair end of story & it’s no longer open for discussion & you will not going forward engage in any conversation about this topic agin & if they continue either walk out of the room , hang up a phone call etc

Is it better for the Redditor to go along with the bride’s strange request to keep things peaceful, or is it too much to ask and an overstep? What do you think about when wedding requests become unacceptable?