My (26F) husband’s (28M) friend (29F) sent him a text saying “look at your other phone ;)”… he doesn’t have another phone.

After seeing a message from her husband’s friend, Amber, that said “look at your other phone ;)” and “goodnight xxx,” a 26-year-old woman is starting to feel doubtful. The message has made her uncomfortable because her husband doesn’t own another phone.

Although her interest was piqued, she didn’t immediately address him; however, she now finds herself wavering between directly inquiring, subtly investigating, or seeking a plausible interpretation of the communication.

‘ My (26F) husband’s (28M) friend (29F) sent him a text saying “look at your other phone ;)”… he doesn’t have another phone.’

My spouse dozed off on the sofa the previous day, his phone resting on his chest. When he shifted position, the phone slipped and fell. I bent down to retrieve it, wanting to check for any screen damage, and the screen illuminated, revealing a text from his friend Amber that said, “check your other phone ;).”

There was another message too, this one saying “goodnight xxx”. I placed the phone back where it was, not wanting him to realize I’d seen it. When he got up, he was desperately searching for his phone, and when I mentioned it had fallen, his relief was obvious as soon as he grabbed it.

His smile appeared as he answered his texts. As we went to sleep, I remained awake the entire night, curious to see if he would produce the enigmatic second phone, but he simply fell asleep and didn’t stir again that night.

Is there a reasonable explanation for this? Did she accidentally text the wrong person? Do I confront my husband? Snoop? What the hell is going on?

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

ThrowRA_Confli −  Probably a texting app. She thinks it’s a second phone but just a different number.

[Reddit User] −  Personally I wouldn’t say anything just yet. That would give him the opportunity to delete and get rid of evidence. He clearly seems to think you are either dumb or too naive to suspect anything. Use that to your advantage. When I finally caught my ex cheating..his old phone was still signed into his email.

I duplicated as much as possible, creating hard copies of all relevant information. When the runaround started, I simply handed over a Manila envelope containing all the proof I’d collected. Fingers crossed this situation isn’t as dire as it seems.

BeenThereAteThat −  Check your WiFi for devices.

papower77 −  Tbh the friend is pretty stupid here. Why on earth would you do that? Defeats the purpose of him having another phone.. Cheaters are stupid.

tuff_gong −  Text back: Can’t find it please call it.

CosmicOmen −  I wouldn’t beat around the bush. Flat out ask him what the deal is and explain you saw the texts so you know what is happening. He obviously responded and probably has another phone. Get him to come clean and figure out your next steps from there. If he knows you already know the truth, he might be more likely to explain what’s going on. Sorry!

Daxman77 −  As a private investigator who deals with infidelity for a living. This is one of the biggest possible red flags. If I were you, I would remain as calm and natural as possible. Not letting him have any idea that you’re aware of his shady behavior. He likely is using a texting app on his phone.

That’s simpler than acquiring a separate mobile device. However, if he possesses another phone, it’s probably in his car, as someone else mentioned. Have you observed any recent behavioral shifts? Has he been excessively generous, initiating arguments, or acting secretively?

PeteyPorkchops −  Another phone that the wife doesn’t know about. Texts from Amber. Panic at his phone being missing. Quit reaching for innocent excuses. Your man is being a dirty dog. Edit: I get it with the phone thing but if I know it was with me before I’m not going to go nuts when it disappears. “Hey babe call my phone I think I dropped it”

mooseknucks666 −  Are you friends with Amber? Can you straight up ask her? I’d probably snoop around the house/his car, and then confront him eventually if you can’t find hard evidence. Especially if you find the mystery phone (it probably has a crazy pass code). This definitely worriesome… I’m sorry you have to stress about it

[Reddit User] −  When I was 16, I saw my bf got a notification on fb messenger from his ex saying to message her on his other account. Turns out he was cheating he had a second fb account, made just so he could talk to her. That ‘ 😉 ‘ send by her and him smiling while reading the messages makes me think he’s definitely cheating and probably mostly physically.

Given that you never witnessed him utilizing an alternative device, it’s plausible he employs a messaging application with disabled alerts. This would eliminate any concern about you discovering the additional phone.

I’d suggest addressing the issue with him directly. It’s a good idea to do so. This approach is preferable to dwelling on uncertainties; instead, seek clarity immediately. Regardless of the outcome, I wish you success in this endeavor. Should things not go as planned, I trust you have a support network of friends and family to assist you.