AITAH For Reporting My Mom And Sister After Blaming Me For Stealing Nearly $11k?
A 19-year-old female college student on Reddit recounted a disturbing experience involving her mother and sister, who pilfered almost $11,000 from her college savings. Despite her diligent efforts to accumulate the funds, she found that her relatives had made significant, unapproved transactions, subsequently accusing her of the wrongdoing. Following an unproductive confrontation, she resolved to pursue legal recourse. The complete account of this upsetting ordeal is available below.
‘ AITAH For Reporting My Mom And Sister After Blaming Me For Stealing Nearly $11k?’
As a 19-year-old female, I’m currently facing a conflict with my mother and sister. My 57-year-old mother and 28-year-old older sister have been taking money from my college savings for several months, yet they accuse me of being responsible for the missing funds. I’ve been employed in summer jobs since I was 15 to cover my university expenses. The money is in a savings account that my mom is adamant about managing.
It didn’t seem too serious to me initially. However, I started receiving bank notifications regarding significant transactions that I had no involvement in. Suspecting unauthorized access, I deactivated my card. I assumed I was in the clear until my mom questioned my card deactivation. I was puzzled as I hadn’t mentioned it to her, so I inquired further.
It dawned on her instantly that she had incriminated herself. She claimed that the amount of money I made was excessive and that she and my sister were more deserving of it. Despite our family’s financial struggles, they have only purchased luxury clothing and handbags.
I ended up suing them after my mom claimed it was my fault for allowing her access to the account and that their need was greater than mine. She played the victim, as usual. Despite my continued efforts, I’m not making any progress. We have another court date in 18 days. What steps should I take? Also, for context, the account was created when I was approximately 15 years old, so I had limited authority over it back then.
Heres the input from the Reddit crowd:
Bargle-Nawdle-Zouss − 51M here.
1. Continue to press your case in court.
2. **IMMEDIATELY** go to another bank – not the same company as your current institution – and open new checking and savings accounts, solely in your own name. Now that you’re over 18, you do not need to have a parent/guardian joint on the account. When setting up your debit card PIN, make sure you use a completely new number.
3. Go to both [creditkarma.com](http://creditkarma.com) and [experian.com](http://experian.com) and “lock” your credit. This ensures that no new debt products, including and especially credit cards, can be opened in your name.
4. Collect all your vital documents, including driver’s license, passport, birth certificate, and Social Security Card, and put them in a secure location of your choosing, inaccessible to your mother and sister.
Given the utmost respect, your mother is a dishonest individual. It’s crucial for you to relocate to your own, self-sufficient residence without delay. Furthermore, once you’ve established yourself in your new place, it’s imperative that you minimize or cease communication with these untruthful swindlers.
Please provide us with an update once the legal proceedings and your relocation are complete. I hope they face consequences for their actions. Ensure those accusations result in convictions, and then remove these toxic individuals from your life. NTA. UpdateMe!
Vivid-Huckleberry448 − NTA. You worked hard for your college fund, and it’s not fair for them to steal from you and then blame you for it. I think you did the right thing by taking action.
disercaffeinity − Stay strong and let the legal process work out it’s tough, but necessary.
Extension-Sun7 − NTA. She’s so m**ipulative and is g**lighting you. If you let her get away with this, she’ll say it was because you were lying. I know the type well. You’re doing the right thing. They need to be held accountable so they don’t do it to anyone else.
[Reddit User] − NTA and make sure you check to see if she’s opened any credit cards in your name. Lock it down, unfortunately I heard of stuff like this more than once.
lilmanfromtheD − If the account is strictly in your name, it would be illegal for them to access it – you can press charges and take them to court. If you have that account opened as a shared account with your mother – your legal grounds on that won’t be good.
Secure documentation illustrating their spending habits with the money. This should be simple, as you will have transaction logs showing where the money went. Additionally, you can demonstrate that you earned and provided those funds, proving it was your money. Even if they were destitute and near death, it remains your money, and they have no entitlement to it, regardless of their circumstances.
nvrhsot − Go scorched Earth.. It’s always the same issue. Those who are lazy and e**itled look upon those who are hard working and financially responsible with disdain.. Go hard on them. Never let any family have access to your finances again.. Go get ’em!. 1000% NTA.
mcmurrml − Move all your money and accounts to a completely different bank or credit union. Do that immediately. Today check your credit report to see if they have opened accounts in your name.
Kittytigris − NTA, they knew what they did. Keep pressing charges, nothing to feel guilty about. They got greedy and got caught so now they’re trying to shift blame. They’re not even sorry for the theft so there’s no need for you to feel guilty about pressing charges. Keep reminding yourself if they didn’t steal, you wouldn’t have had to press charges in the first place.
chuckinhoutex − NTA- tell your mom to try her line of b**lshit on the judge.
Was the user justified in pursuing legal recourse against their relatives, or should they have explored alternative solutions? What would your reaction be if a trusted individual pilfered your hard-earned savings? Please share your opinions in the space below.
