AITA for putting my daughter in a light colored dress for my friend’s wedding?

A woman on Reddit received negative feedback from a friend for putting her seven-month-old daughter in a pink dress at the friend’s wedding, which mandated dark attire. Although pregnant and not feeling well, the user had no other choice because an accident necessitated a change of clothes for her daughter. The friend, who had exhibited controlling behavior during the wedding preparations, blamed the user for trying to ruin her big day. For additional details regarding this wedding conflict, refer to the original article provided.

‘ AITA for putting my daughter in a light colored dress for my friend’s wedding?’

This is about my friend, we are both in our mid-twenties. Ever since she got engaged, she has been acting unlike herself. It’s like her lifelong dream of having a perfect wedding has made her insufferable. I say this with affection, but the truth is she’s become a nightmare, especially to those assisting with her wedding plans. Even her family and friends are getting the cold shoulder.

The latest to suffer were my daughter and myself. She recently wed, stipulating dark attire for everyone, ensuring she alone would be in a light shade (white). The attendees, including the kids, all followed her wishes.

During the ceremony, my daughter had a mishap that necessitated a change of clothes. The only spare dress she had was pink. Usually, I would have brought a dark-colored dress as backup, but being pregnant and unwell, I was already exerting myself just to attend my friend’s wedding.

I lacked the energy to oversee the packing of all our luggage (since the wedding was out of town, and I, my husband (36M), and our baby needed outfits), so my husband took on the responsibility of packing everything. He believed a light-colored dress for the baby wouldn’t be an issue, so I was forced to select that option, which my friend strongly disapproved of.

She maintained that the clothing regulations applied equally to all, irrespective of their age. I acknowledged her point, explaining that my daughter lacked an alternative outfit and that the pink hue was hardly vibrant. However, she refused to consider my perspective, becoming agitated and now believes I intentionally sought to undermine her event.

The most upsetting aspect of this is that my daughter is only seven months old, not 18. This is precisely why I believe I haven’t erred. I believe she is entitled to decide what attire her visitors should wear, but it is unreasonable to become so enraged with a baby; it is illogical. Am I the Asshole?

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

ryjack3232 −  NTA. I tend to be pretty pro bride on this sub. I think it’s fine for brides to pick their party’s outfits, the parent outfits, etc. But making a dress code for the entire audience!? And applying it to a 7 month olds backup dress?! That’s sociopathic

BryanZero −  NTA, if someone confuses your baby for the bride baby is AH ( I kid )

FitLength2789 −  Nta. She got mad at a baby. Lol.

Dragon_Fire_Skye −  NTA. Your friend is one though with a freaking dress code for guests, especially for a seven month old baby.

ItIsNotAManual1984 −  NTA. Your friend has a serious issues if she is competing with 7 months old. You should consider maker her a former friend

marygpt −  NTA and I think you need to lead the story with your daughter’s age of 7 months. This is so ridiculous I wonder if it’s real?

JustheBean −  NTA. She’s a 7 month old for pity sake.

CrabbiestAsp −  NTA. We don’t always remember to pre-pack appropriate clothes. I know our diaper bag always had the same sort of clothes in them in case of accidents. We never pre-packed special event extras. We never even thought of it.

TallOccasion4453 −  “ I mean she has a right to choose the clothes she wants her guests to wear” …….. No she does not!. She has a right to ASK.. And nowadays white isn’t for guests/ only for bride in more countries… But she can’t dictate the clothes people want to wear to their event.. especially a small baby.. Edit: NTA

Training-System7525 −  You got a 7 month old and you’re already popping out another one? Is everything … okay at home? *girl, your post history is beyond worrying

Was the user wrong to put her baby in a pink dress, or did the friend react excessively considering the situation? How would you manage a situation where a friend’s rigid wedding guidelines conflict with what your family requires? Post your opinions here!