AITAH for postponing our wedding because my fiance wants to have pictures of her late husband in it?

A user on Reddit recounted his predicament regarding a potential wedding postponement. His fiancée insisted on prominently featuring images of her deceased husband throughout both the ceremony and the reception. She even voiced the idea of having a bridesmaid carry a photograph of him during the ceremony and suggested incorporating his picture into their wedding day portraits.

When the user voiced his unease, his future wife accused him of envy. This caused him to consider calling off the wedding entirely. The complete story is available below.

‘ AITAH for postponing our wedding because my fiance wants to have pictures of her late husband in it?’

My partner and I have been an item for approximately three years and have been engaged for the last six months. While working on arrangements, she brought up the question of where a photo of her deceased husband might be displayed. I was taken aback and asked her to explain what she meant.

She clarified, after I asked for more information, that she would like a photo of her deceased husband present at the wedding. Specifically, she wants a bridesmaid to carry his picture during the ceremony and also have it displayed on our table.

And when taking Pics, she wants to hold him in most pictures. I told her that I didn’t want that, and while I understand he’s important to her, I’d feel uncomfortable with his pictures in our wedding, especially when they’re so prominent.

We got into a fight and she yelled “I can’t believe you’re jealous! He’s f**king dead! What, do you think I’m gonna f**k him at our wedding?” I decided to postpone the wedding, and honestly, I’m thinking of calling it off all together.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

DuePromotion287 −  NTA- that is an extreme request. It is way overboard. She is not ready to marry you.

gastropod43 −  NTA. She is not ready to marry you. After 3 years, she may never be ready.

Kep63 −  Ok…I’m a widow of 12 years and this just isn’t right. I understand she may want a memory of him with her but…pictures of him in pictures of you two is just wrong on many levels!! There are many inconspicuous ways of having him with her.

You are completely justified in delaying your wedding, and even considering calling it off altogether. It seems to me that she’s not yet prepared to commit. I’m unsure of the reason, but she might benefit from therapy or introspection to uncover it.

Nightwish1976 −  NTA. A wedding is supposed to be a celebration of things to be, not of dead spouses.

FactBearsEatBeetss −  NTA. This is weird. We had a memorial table in the entrance of our reception for photos of deceased loved ones.

It doesn’t strike me as strange or inappropriate to set up a memorial table and feature her deceased partner. However, it seems excessive to expect a bridesmaid to carry his photo, have it included in your couple’s photographs, and position it at the head table.

NotShockedFruitWeird −  NTA. I’ve heard of honoring dead parents but not dead spouses…

AggravatingOwl6405 −  That’s weird as hell she’s probably trying to do some ritual and possess you with his spirit I would run

Affectionate-Jury300 −  This is fake. Here is the OP’s posting history from earlier this month. “Am I wrong for not revealing that I was engaged before?” – last week

Last week, I asked if I would be wrong to end my relationship with my girlfriend because she was happy that I didn’t have much experience. Last week, I also asked if I was wrong to ignore my friend after she disappeared for three months after we had sex.

WaryScientist −  NTA… it’d be one thing to have a candle lit for him or something, but to make the start of your union be all about him is a huge red flag 🚩. The fact that she doesn’t care about your feelings in the matter is also a red flag… yikes

Free-Place-3930 −  NTA. Call it off and thank karma for showing you this and GTFO.

Is the Redditor justified in feeling the way he does considering the situation? Or should he be more considerate of his fiancée’s desire to pay tribute to her deceased husband? What is the best way to manage new relationships while still respecting past memories? I’m interested in hearing your opinions!